Keeping this one short this week for many reasons but the most pressing one would be that the real world has decided that I just needed a few more obstacles in my path and has been fairly liberal in dropping them more or less directly on top of me over the last few weeks. Most of it is work related but I’m going to be honest and admit that my confidence has taken some serious hits lately (and given my usual raging insecurities that probably wasn’t something I needed). Still, I’m not turning this into a post about my personal dramas so I’ll get to the topic at hand.
Don’t you just love in anime how characters are constantly asking others to believe in themselves or announcing that they are the strongest or most amazing? It is almost as if they think a self-declaration or affirmation will somehow reshape reality and make it so. Black Star from Soul Eater is the perfect example of a character who screams his many wonders at any given opportunity despite plenty of early failures.
Here’s the thing though. They are actually kind of right. While just declaring yourself the best won’t make it so, being paralysed by fear and uncertainty and worried about the consequences of every decision actively prevents you from moving forward. The difficulty of course is then finding a balance.
Midoriya from My Hero Academia is starting to find his balance. Early season one Midoriya spent a lot of his time mumbling to himself and fairly crippled by his own inadequacies. Still, when the time came to act he did and since then he gained strength. Small strength and first, strength he couldn’t really control and he knew he could still lose, but from that strength he gained confidence and started to believe he could become strong. And so he started to act. Now we have season 2 Midoriya who still does think through consequences and occasionally reverts to the mumbling mess he was, but for the most part he faces forward and plans his next moves. He isn’t a braggart but he has confidence in his growing abilities and that he can overcome most obstacles.
Is he right? Well, he isn’t dead yet so I guess he can’t be too wrong.
So let’s apply this to blogging.
A lot of the bloggers I interact with are self-declared introverts or not overly social people in the real world. A lot of them worry about how people will take something or whether they’ve made a mistake. A lot of people worry whether leaving a comment is the right choice or whether they should just like. A lot of them worry that they might seem brash or rude, or that they might be taken the wrong way.
That’s a lot of worry going on and it is understandable given we’re told continuously that once something is online it is there. Even if you delete it later someone may have already shared it, screen capped it, whatever, and it might never disappear entirely.
But… If you don’t hit the post button, if you don’t send that comment, if you don’t write that tweet there is only one certainty. And that is, no one will ever reply to you or know what you were thinking. No one will be able to respond to you, acknowledge you, consider your view. It just won’t exist.
And while every thought you have may not need to be broadcast to the world, sometimes the smallest things can make a big difference.
So maybe 100 people already wrote a review or their impressions of that episode. Maybe you aren’t adding anything new that hasn’t been said by one of them. But are they your thoughts? Didn’t you start a blog to put yourself out there (even if only in a small way)? Didn’t you want someone to know how you felt?
As someone who lets their self-doubt cripple them in real-life on a fairly regular basis, I know that nothing will come from needless worry. Think it through. In regards to a blog post just do the basics. Is your point clear? Can it be read easily? Are there too many glaring errors that probably should be fixed? Is this what you want to say? If your post does that schedule it or post it. Stop worrying. Stop hesitating. Maybe someone will write a nasty comment and maybe no one will say anything. But just maybe you’ll start a conversation with someone and you’ll be happy that you wrote it.
Not saying it is easy but if you want to blog just do it. Don’t let your worry stop you.
Thanks for reading.
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